Thursday, June 05, 2008

The French courts get one right

But the rest of the country is horrified that lying to a prospective spouse could be grounds for an annulment:
The bride said she was a virgin. When her new husband discovered that was a lie, he went to court to annul the marriage—and a French judge agreed.

The ruling ending the Muslim couple's union has stunned France and raised concerns the country's much-cherished secular values are losing ground to religious traditions from its fast-growing immigrant communities....

Let me get this straight: critics of the ruling are saying that because most Western Europeans no longer see anything wrong with sex before (or outside of) marriage, this would-be husband has no recourse but to accept his bride deceived him about a matter that was clearly important to his value system? How... intolerant.

The coverage portrays this case as indicative of the problems arising from France's large Muslim immigrant population. There are indeed many of those, but in this case, that's a red herring. Regardless of one's background, starting a marriage with deception (by the groom OR bride) is not a good recipe for success. Is it really that hard to understand the groom's grief?

Many couples find grace to overcome issues of betrayal. That doesn't mean society needs to enshrine such actions as a "cherished secular value."

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